I apologize for missing the daily journal prompts the last two days, it has been super busy for me the last couple of days and I just have not had time to get on here and post!! Some of you may have seen me on TLC’s My 600 Pound Life last night. I’m not going to say a lot about that, I did make a post on the Facebook account for Bariatric Mama so feel free to check that out. I just don’t feel like it is necessary to try to defend myself. I don’t owe anyone any explanations about my life or journey. I have been a little overwhelmed with how many people feel the need to seek me out to provide me with negative comments. To those of you who have reached out with a supportive message though I appreciate you!
Negativity is soul-sucking. I have beat myself up over the years of my life so much that trust me there is nothing left for you to say that I haven’t already said to myself. Negativity is a huge part of why we fail when it comes to our goals. Letting those negative thoughts into your head will tear down any success that you have had. I have allowed negative thoughts and people to set me back in the past so I am determined that is not going to happen this time around. So what can we do about it…..
“Whatever you do good or bad, people will always have something negative to say about you and that’s life.” -unknown
I recently found this great technique to overcome negativity in your life and I am using it to help me through this bad period of time. I wanted to share it with you and hope you find it helpful.
This is called cognitive restructuring. The process involves taking your negative thoughts, restructuring them and changing your thoughts. Every time someone sends a negative thought your way it’s hard not internalize that. So changing the way we think about ourselves is important. I created a printable for you or just write this out in your journal.
The first thing you need to do is write down all of your negative thoughts. Whether these are coming from yourself or other people. Create a column and write down all the thoughts you are battling. This can be hard but get it out on paper!
Next step, become a lawyer! Refute these thoughts. These things are false, write out why they are false. Again this can be hard if they are coming from yourself. Think about why they are wrong though, what are things that contradict your negative thoughts.
Now restructure your thoughts. Change it into a positive thought. For example, one of my negative thoughts is that I am not a good mother. I refute this with the fact that I love my girls. I spend time with them daily. I provide them love and I am very close with my girls. I restructure my negative thought by listing the positives. I am a good mother, I provide love to my girls daily.
The final step is to come up with a positive thought that you can tell yourself whenever that negative thought comes to mind. If you notice yourself thinking about that negative thought use your new positive affirmation to get it out of your head!! This may be similar to what you wrote down for step three but keep it short and powerful. In my example above my affirmation is I’m a good mom.
Using this technique can help you keep the negatives out and bring the positives in. Keeping our minds clear of negatives can help us stay focused on the goals!! You got this everyone! We can do it!!
In the comments tell me what your positives are! I want to keep it positive so tell me what affirmations you are using today!